I've been missing my boy a lot lately, with the beautiful Spring weather upon us. It is still very difficult for me to walk out in our backyard, since that is where Tucker spent so much of his happy time. His "roly poly" spots in the grass are fading and being replaced with lush green grass, which makes me sad. I can't believe it's been almost 5 months since he left us. It seems like so much longer since I last felt his soft fur or heard him breathing. We have pictures of him all over our house, and his box of ashes is on the mantle above our fireplace. I can still feel his spirit all over the house.
I read a touching pet loss poem today and thought I would share it:
Why? That's what we ask. The truth is, we may never be able to know for sure why.
But we do know that there is no single "should have done"or "could have done" or "did" or "didn't do" that would have changed that why.
Nice to hear from you again. Yes, it is still so hard, that I understand very well. Each time there is a reminder it is just as painful as always. I had one today and decided to write about it and that is how I came to check your blog. Thanks for the poem. It is very timely as just this morning I was asking myself (doubting myself) that maybe there was more I could have done for my girl. Then the sadness just overcame me.
That is a beautiful picture of Tucker. He looks so vibrant and strong.
Unfortunately I have no words to offer in return. Just my tears in agreement to your pain, and a long deep breath to help fight those tears and face my harsh reality.
I am so sorry for your loss. I found your site from a comment you made on Bakarella, it caught my attention because my Son's name is Tucker.It is such a sweet name, I haven't met another human Tucker, but I have met many dogs named Tucker. It's a good name.
I am so very sorry for your loss. A new friend of mine directed me to your blog, because I too am facing my beloved pet's final weeks/days ... I wish there was something I could say to make you feel better, or even make myself feel better. The only thought that helps is that they are/will be in a better place and that hopefully, we'll get to see them again ...
1. Be present and be in the moment with me. In the moment of now we will write the final chapter of my life. Your presence is everything. Listen to me with your heart.
2. I have a right to compassionate, considerate, respectful care. Choose for me a veterinarian who will honor me physically, emotionally and spiritually. One who will listen to you because you are my advocate and no one loves me as you do. Choose a veterinarian who will offer her or his wisdom so that you can make informed decisions regarding my care.
3. Keep me free from pain and symptoms so that I may enjoy my day and the precious time I have left with you. Seek to understand the different types of pain I may have. Look for enthusiasm in my eyes as a gage. Celebrate my life with me till the very end!
4. Keep me well nourished so that my body will have the fortitude that it needs to fight disease and energy to function. Offer me my favorite foods to entice me to eat but honor my decision, should I choose not to eat.
5. Keep me well hydrated; for this will keep me in balance with the universe.
6. Keep me warm and comfortable. I will need to be bathed more frequently - maybe several times a day. My favorite bed and blanket gives me security and lets me feel safe. I want to smell fresh air and to feel the warmth of the sun on my face. I want to hear the softness of your voice reassuring me of my importance in your life.
7. Let me stay active and continue to be a part of the family I love so dearly. I want to go for rides in the car, and long walks on the beach, and snuggle with you on the couch while we watch TV. Keep fun in our day.
8. Touch me. Your loving hands have fed me, played with me, comforted me and now give me strength. Linger just a little longer as you scratch my ear. Your touch lets me know you are there and gives me assurance that you care.
9. Give me permission to leave - I need to hear those words from you - I need to know you will be OK. Let me go. Know it is my time even if it seems like it is too soon. Support me as I take my final breath.
10. If there comes a time when you know that I am suffering please euthanize me. I trust that you will always make the right decision for me for I am the blood of your heart. Be with me - I want you to be my last vision.
11. As there has been great joy in our life together now let there be joy in my passing. Cherish and be thankful for our happy moments together. Promise to keep my memory alive in all you do everyday.
We have been married for 12 years, and we have been trying to have a baby for quite a few of those years. Jess is a registered nurse, and Brian works in the asset and wealth management division of a large financial institution. We began fertility treatments in July 2010, and we found out in March 2011 that the radiation treatment that Jess had in 2009 (for thyroid cancer) damaged her ovaries and will most likely prevent her from being able to conceive a child. This is the story of our journey through infertility ...
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Nice to hear from you again. Yes, it is still so hard, that I understand very well. Each time there is a reminder it is just as painful as always. I had one today and decided to write about it and that is how I came to check your blog. Thanks for the poem. It is very timely as just this morning I was asking myself (doubting myself) that maybe there was more I could have done for my girl. Then the sadness just overcame me.
That is a beautiful picture of Tucker. He looks so vibrant and strong.
Thanks for sharing.
Unfortunately I have no words to offer in return. Just my tears in agreement to your pain, and a long deep breath to help fight those tears and face my harsh reality.
I am so sorry for your loss. I found your site from a comment you made on Bakarella, it caught my attention because my Son's name is Tucker.It is such a sweet name, I haven't met another human Tucker, but I have met many dogs named Tucker. It's a good name.
I am so very sorry for your loss. A new friend of mine directed me to your blog, because I too am facing my beloved pet's final weeks/days ... I wish there was something I could say to make you feel better, or even make myself feel better. The only thought that helps is that they are/will be in a better place and that hopefully, we'll get to see them again ...
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